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Housing and what happens in bedrooms
When I first knew my SO she lived with her parents. There was a room at the top of the house that wasn't used except for junk, so she cleared it, put up an easel, and used it for painting. It didn't occurred to me then that it was odd to have a room in your house that you didn't use.
But there was also a room referred to as "the table tennis room" which contained no table tennis table, and any way who has a whole room for that? There were some armchairs so you could sit in there, but no one did because who wants to go upstairs for a sit down? Then there was a room on the ground floor at the front that contained a table and a piano(!) and was called the dining room, but no one ate in there because there was a "breakfast room" next to the kitchen where all meals were eaten.
So that's three rooms they didn't use, and I'm not counting a spare bedroom that was only used occasionally for visitors. Someone asked me recently if we had a big house. If the criteria is "has rooms you never use" then no.
Enough about house size. Let's talk about what happens in bedrooms. When I came to stay in that big old house, I wasn't allowed to stay in my SO's room. We were both adults, but maybe the problem was that she asked her father. Then he then had a choice that made him uncomfortable. So after he said no, some creeping around was necessary. To begin with I was in the spare bedroom (see occasional use for visitors above). That meant stairs between us and tricky, creaky creeping. But when the junk room was cleared, I had a mattress in there and it was a very short journey.
But no one needs to feel that they'll be caught in mid creep. So when my children had people round they slept where they liked.
But there was also a room referred to as "the table tennis room" which contained no table tennis table, and any way who has a whole room for that? There were some armchairs so you could sit in there, but no one did because who wants to go upstairs for a sit down? Then there was a room on the ground floor at the front that contained a table and a piano(!) and was called the dining room, but no one ate in there because there was a "breakfast room" next to the kitchen where all meals were eaten.
So that's three rooms they didn't use, and I'm not counting a spare bedroom that was only used occasionally for visitors. Someone asked me recently if we had a big house. If the criteria is "has rooms you never use" then no.
Enough about house size. Let's talk about what happens in bedrooms. When I came to stay in that big old house, I wasn't allowed to stay in my SO's room. We were both adults, but maybe the problem was that she asked her father. Then he then had a choice that made him uncomfortable. So after he said no, some creeping around was necessary. To begin with I was in the spare bedroom (see occasional use for visitors above). That meant stairs between us and tricky, creaky creeping. But when the junk room was cleared, I had a mattress in there and it was a very short journey.
But no one needs to feel that they'll be caught in mid creep. So when my children had people round they slept where they liked.